Just in case you mistakenly believe that I have this whole mom thing figured out, let me be completely honest. There is one thing, one huge, smelly, icky thing, that I totally suck at: Potty Training.
Maddie took forever. There was much attempt at patience as well as smiles, silly songs, a cute potty chair, and an extra attachment for the adult toilet. Then came the frustration, the accidents, the crying (mainly on my part), and the utter despair. Finally, my mother-in-law laid down the law. Maddie was told, in no uncertain terms, that if she peed in Grammy’s floor, she was going to get a spanking. That’s all it took! After a year and a half of effort on my part, my mother-in-law’s voice was the answer. There were almost no accidents from that point on! It was like a blessing from the heavens.
With the twins, I knew it would be more difficult. The plan was to wait until they were older than Maddie was when we started trying to house break her. The problem with all best laid plans, however, it that my twins don’t like plans. They don’t follow the directives given them, and they make their own rules. At about twenty months, they began ripping off their diapers like it was the greatest game ever invented. Imagine, or it may be more pleasant if you don’t imagine, the effects of ripping off a diaper filled with liquid and often solid toddler byproducts, often at high velocities. Most dramatic were the times when the removal occurred before naps, and again, if you are brave of heart, imagine what that looked like by the time they woke up.
So, with a heavy heart and knowledge of what was in store, I began the journey toward civilized bathroom usage with our identical mass producers of foulness.
What I have learned follows:
- Never get too excited too quickly.
When I began this journey, I was so excited to see the twins happily sit on the potty, or even the full-sized toilet. Maddie never cooperated and we had to coax her to remain in a full-upright and seated position. I was ecstatic! Surely this would not take as long with them as it had with her.
- Never assume that your positive attitude will affect the attitudes of wee small ones.
I was all smiles. We were going to do this. It would not only save me the time wasted in cleaning their goo-encrusted bums, but think of the money that would be saved not having to buy diapers for two! If I kept smiling they would happily “Let it Go” and the process would be over. (In fact, we even sang that song as they sat, time after time, on the potty seats and produced NOTHING.
- Never believe that buying cute products will work wonders.
When I really got down to the business of training them, necessitated again by a frenzied drive toward total nakedness on their parts (I swear no one else in the house is driven by nudist tendencies), I sent my husband to the store to buy a second potty chair that closely resembled the one left over from our trials with Maddie. Armed with not one but two Froggy Potties, the twins and I excitedly renewed our vigor. Now they fight over who gets which seat… fail.
- Never waste money on specialized butt covering devices.
While I haven’t wasted money on pull-up style training diapers this time around, we did have some left over from several years ago, so out of storage they came. The babies do quite well putting them on themselves, but guess what else they can do… Those suckers come off with a fluidity and a velocity far surpassing that of the previously mentioned flying diapers. I swear! You could do physics experiments based on the trajectory of these little pink and white missiles.
- Never feel bad for ingenuity.
I must admit, in my frustration, that there have been days (many of them) that I have needed a break. Twice, so far, I have resorted to taping diapers on them. Interestingly, the sound of the tape being unrolled sends them into panicked sceams, and I am not sure why. In all honesty, as I type and they run around their room bare butted and threatening to flood the world, I am eyeing the packing take with great intensity. I am attempting to resist the urge, but resistance is often futile.
In total honesty, the twins are almost no closer to being potty trained than they were when I began this journey. I am more frustrated than I want to be, but we will continue to persevere. If nothing else, I can always buy stock in cleaning products and hope for the marked to increase…
One very tired Mommy